A letter to my daughter: Lola, at 5 weeks old. Dear Lola, Oh, Lola. To say that I'm excited to be your mom would be an understatement. When I was younger and I'd think about one day being a mom, I always saw myself with a little girl. Always. I imagined my little girl dressed in pink, twirling in princess dresses, and tiaras and sequins and sparkles. And I envisioned a life filled with gymnastics, and ballet and dance. I expected barbies and American Girl dolls and I saw us playing house and dress up and school. I wished for outings for manicures and shopping for clothes, and prom dresses and wedding dresses together. But then I found out I was pregnant with you -- a girl -- in 2017, and realized my vision of having a daughter … [Read more...] about Dear Lola: Letter one.
Having a toddler is hard. Adding a newborn to the mix can make things even trickier! Here's a post about smoothly introducing your toddler to their new baby sibling. I was nervous about how our family dynamics would change when we brought home baby #2. How would we introduce him to his new family member? How would my lovable boy react to his new sibling? Would he feel left out or jealous of his new baby sibling? Ah! The unknown. I scoured the internet in the weeks before delivery looking for tips and all the how-to's. My goal was to make sure Javi continued to feel loved and not overlooked. I knew that much of the attention would be on Lola especially in the first few days of her life. For a former only child, that's hard! So: here … [Read more...] about 9 tips for introducing siblings.
I gave birth last week. Did I tell you?! This is our last photo as a family of three! We took it right before Sean and I left for the hospital. Birth stories are such tempting reads! At least they are for me. Since I wrote about Javi's birth day, I want to make sure I do the same for Lola. So, here goes -- Lola's Birth Story: A few weeks ago, doctors decided that I should be induced at 39 weeks. Unfortunately, that fell on Christmas Eve and I didn't want that so I chose the 26th for her birth. Originally, the doctor had mentioned beginning Cervidil at 7PM on Tuesday night and assured me that I would be ready to deliver when she arrived to the hospital at 8:30AM the next day. Well, that's, of course, not how it … [Read more...] about Lola’s Birth Day.
I feel very fortunate that I'm a mother and I feel lucky that I'm a mother to my son. He's spunky and lively and makes me laugh every day. I'm anxious and excited to add another child to our family but I know it means change is on the horizon for my son, and for us. In the spirit of documentation, I want to remember these feelings, leave a record of memories for my first-born and promise my son that not everything will change, at least not forever. You can read letters one, two and three here. Dear Javi, In a week or less, you'll become a brother. That's a big deal. This is new for you, and as an only child, this is totally new territory for me, too. Of course, I know how to take care of more than one child at a time. But I don't know … [Read more...] about A letter to my son, before he becomes a big brother.
Something about November seems like an especially perfect time to acknowledge feeling thankful for all that we have. I mean, it's always a good time to feel thankful, but around Thanksgiving there are so many opportunities to talk about it. Every day, I try to teach the children in my classroom about thankfulness, gratitude and generosity. These are things that I hope to instill in my own children, too. Being able to show true gratitude has been linked to having better relationships and better physical and mental health. Being grateful enhances empathy and reduces aggression -- and has even been linked to better sleep and improving self-esteem. All positive things! Here are five ways to teach kids to feel thankful and be grateful: 1. … [Read more...] about Teaching Kids to be Thankful.
(Image Link) No parent likes the idea of the kids being sad or upset. Of course, though, when life gets tough, it can be hard to balance your emotions along with the ones your children are feeling. Most will manage to get through their rough spot, dealing with it as best they can. To make this sort of time easier for you, this post will be going through some of the areas you should be considering during them. Avoid An Argument Most children are like emotion sponges and will pick up on the feeling in the air, even if they aren’t exposed to anything negative. Of course, this means that arguments can have a heavy impact on them. During difficult times, a family law attorney or therapist could be a good way to avoid shouting at each other. … [Read more...] about Tiny Trauma: Making Troubling Times Easier For Kids*